Gibraltar is a long, skinny town, with only one long Main Street stretching over a mile along the base of the Rock. It was beautifully restored in the year 2000 to colonial British glory, so the atmosphere is very quaint, but the stores are quite modern, and there is an excellent selection of British clothing, food, and electronic stores for those who want to do some shopping.
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Wednesday, November 13, 2013
Autumn in Southern Spain
I grew up in the Mid-Atlantic states on America's East Coast. So to me, "fall" means colorful leaves, chilly weather, apple picking, corn harvests, and hay rides. It smells like burning leaves, bonfires, and steaming apple cider, and it tastes like pumpkin bread, s'mores, and roasted turkey. Fall is back-to-school, Halloween, and Thanksgiving-- one long season of celebrating harvests and food, with field trips to the apple orchard and pumpkin patch, and parties with family and friends.
In Spain, fall is NONE of that. The Spanish literally would not understand a single element of the above paragraph, except back-to-school. That's it. Fall in Spain is simply the beginning of the school year and the end of the tourist season, when the locals get their beach towns back to themselves. It is slightly colder. We need jackets in the morning, but by afternoon it is back in the 70's and sunny, even in mid-November. Sometimes, autumn is the start of the rainy season, although this particular year has been sunny and beautiful with a whopping 3 days of rain all fall. It is just a more comfortable version of summer, with the necessity of sending children to school instead of to the beach.
The Spanish do not celebrate Halloween. It is essentially a British celebration, brought to America by early settlers. But All Hallows' Eve was never a holiday in Catholic Spain. They celebrate the next day, All Saints' Day, as a national holiday from work, and an opportunity to visit graveyards and place flowers on their relatives' graves. But jack-o-lanterns, costumes, and trick-or-treating are not part of the local culture or customs. Of course, in recent years, the towns around the Naval Base have watched the Americans celebrate this strange holiday, and many Spanish families come to base in costume on Halloween to get free candy from the Americans who live in base housing. To them, it is like Carnival--a day to dress up and act silly. But they can't comprehend our obsession with cooking, carving, and celebrating pumpkins. There is some Spanish squash, but no typical big orange pumpkins. (We buy ours at the commissary, and they are probably flown in from Germany). So of course there are no pumpkin patches, no hay rides, and certainly no bonfires--the burn ban can't be lifted until it rains a lot, which it hasn't...
The Spanish also don't celebrate Thanksgiving, for obvious reasons--it is an American celebration of the colonists surviving their first year in the New World. Turkey is not very common in this part of Spain, but at least the concept of gathering for a large family meal is not unusual. However, they would probably start their celebration at 10 pm, not mid-afternoon. And of course, the Spanish don't play football. Well, they might call it that, but it's soccer.
And finally, the Spanish don't start celebrating Christmas in October, the way American stores do. There is no mention of Christmas anywhere until, well, December. The Feast of the Immaculate Conception on December 8th is the official start of the Christmas season to the Spanish. So they have to ask the Americans to kindly wait until December to begin decorating their homes and looking for Christmas trees.
So this is probably the ONLY time of year when the Americans have more holidays than the Spanish. Sure, they have local religious celebrations and town festivals scattered throughout the Fall, but it is nothing compared to the never-ending festivities of Spring and Summer. This is also the one time of year when I feel most isolated from my homeland and more like a foreigner than usual. You never realize how much of your life is cultural until you live somewhere else. I thought "autumn" was a universal concept, but of course if I took the time to consider, residents of Florida or Arizona would not have the same sensory reactions to fall that I do. So it has been a good time to enjoy my family, enjoy events on base, and enjoy the culture I grew up with. Because hey, the Spanish don't have a monopoly on holidays. Americans have our own version of fun, too. And we find ways to celebrate our own customs and holidays even in a land of continual sun and palm trees.
In Spain, fall is NONE of that. The Spanish literally would not understand a single element of the above paragraph, except back-to-school. That's it. Fall in Spain is simply the beginning of the school year and the end of the tourist season, when the locals get their beach towns back to themselves. It is slightly colder. We need jackets in the morning, but by afternoon it is back in the 70's and sunny, even in mid-November. Sometimes, autumn is the start of the rainy season, although this particular year has been sunny and beautiful with a whopping 3 days of rain all fall. It is just a more comfortable version of summer, with the necessity of sending children to school instead of to the beach.
The Spanish do not celebrate Halloween. It is essentially a British celebration, brought to America by early settlers. But All Hallows' Eve was never a holiday in Catholic Spain. They celebrate the next day, All Saints' Day, as a national holiday from work, and an opportunity to visit graveyards and place flowers on their relatives' graves. But jack-o-lanterns, costumes, and trick-or-treating are not part of the local culture or customs. Of course, in recent years, the towns around the Naval Base have watched the Americans celebrate this strange holiday, and many Spanish families come to base in costume on Halloween to get free candy from the Americans who live in base housing. To them, it is like Carnival--a day to dress up and act silly. But they can't comprehend our obsession with cooking, carving, and celebrating pumpkins. There is some Spanish squash, but no typical big orange pumpkins. (We buy ours at the commissary, and they are probably flown in from Germany). So of course there are no pumpkin patches, no hay rides, and certainly no bonfires--the burn ban can't be lifted until it rains a lot, which it hasn't...
The Spanish also don't celebrate Thanksgiving, for obvious reasons--it is an American celebration of the colonists surviving their first year in the New World. Turkey is not very common in this part of Spain, but at least the concept of gathering for a large family meal is not unusual. However, they would probably start their celebration at 10 pm, not mid-afternoon. And of course, the Spanish don't play football. Well, they might call it that, but it's soccer.
And finally, the Spanish don't start celebrating Christmas in October, the way American stores do. There is no mention of Christmas anywhere until, well, December. The Feast of the Immaculate Conception on December 8th is the official start of the Christmas season to the Spanish. So they have to ask the Americans to kindly wait until December to begin decorating their homes and looking for Christmas trees.
So this is probably the ONLY time of year when the Americans have more holidays than the Spanish. Sure, they have local religious celebrations and town festivals scattered throughout the Fall, but it is nothing compared to the never-ending festivities of Spring and Summer. This is also the one time of year when I feel most isolated from my homeland and more like a foreigner than usual. You never realize how much of your life is cultural until you live somewhere else. I thought "autumn" was a universal concept, but of course if I took the time to consider, residents of Florida or Arizona would not have the same sensory reactions to fall that I do. So it has been a good time to enjoy my family, enjoy events on base, and enjoy the culture I grew up with. Because hey, the Spanish don't have a monopoly on holidays. Americans have our own version of fun, too. And we find ways to celebrate our own customs and holidays even in a land of continual sun and palm trees.
Thursday, September 12, 2013
1 year in Spain
Today marks one year that we have lived in Spain. What a glorious, adventure-filled, busy, and fulfilling year it has been!
One year ago today, we were getting off a plane, blinking in the strong Spanish sunlight, staring in awe at Rota's colorful buildings, and smiling at every palm tree. We were also immediately informed about the terrorist attack in Benghazi, and told that my husband would be swept away to work long shifts at work, while we were left to move, get settled, and find our way around mostly on our own.
The first month was hard. Very hard. Everything was a challenge. I learned to drive stick shift the day after we arrived, because that's what we had in the rental car. There was such an enormous amount of paperwork, checking in, and registration to be done... And we had to do it all with 3 kids in the car. Everything I tried to get done seemed to take 2 or 3 more steps than anticipated, making for frustrated exhaustion over simple tasks like getting money from an ATM, using a phone, getting groceries. Our household goods didn't arrive for the first month of our stay, so we camped out in our huge empty house, desperately trying to entertain 3 children who weren't in school yet with a limited supply of books and toys. Insanity. Did I mention that my husband was working 12-hour shifts and sleeping at work? Yes, a year ago we were not having fun.
But...eventually we found our way, received our furniture and our minivan, bought a GPS, enrolled children in preschool, made friends, joined groups, developed routines...
And travelled.
Our first big trip was to Portugal at Christmas. We didn't really feel like we were in a settled routine until January. Then it was the cold rainy season, so we couldn't go anywhere until March. But since then, boy have we been busy! Visitors, and day trips, and family adventures together. Late dinners in town, walks along the beach, soaking in the sun, the culture, the tastes, the experience.
And it has been wonderful.
I was thinking about making a list of things I miss, but it honestly isn't much. We have been blessed with family visits, and we keep in touch with phone calls and emails as well as we did when we lived in North Carolina. I miss some friends, but I have made some new ones. Occasionally I miss certain American food, but I can make most dishes with Commissary ingredients, and the food here is always good.
But things I have gotten used to? That is a longer list.
- roundabouts. Love them. Fewer traffic lights, more opportunities to find your exit.
- palm trees waving in the wind
- an ocean view during my runs
- going for walks on the boardwalk and getting ice cream
- watching the sun set over the Atlantic
- saying gracias, adios, vale, claro
- putting olive oil and salt on bread
- eating olives with pits for snack
- naked kids at the beach
- tiny narrow streets and parking spots the exact dimension of my van
- strangers touching my children in the street and saying 'Que guapo!'
- buying seafood that is still staring at me, then taking it home and cooking and eating it
- packing up snacks and activities, then taking my kids on exploring adventures of new cities
- living near 13th century churches, Roman ruins, and Moorish castles
- adding Sprite to wine to make instant tinto de verano
- no commercials on TV
- walking my daughter to and from school
- lots and lots of sunlight
- telling my kids to 'ven aqui!' And hold my Mano.
So yes, it has been a pretty great year, and we are looking forward to 2 more! :-)
Thursday, August 29, 2013
A weekend in Toledo!
One of our favorite activities in the city was going on the "train" ride. This is actually more like a trolley, shaped like a train, that drives on city streets and takes you across the river to get wonderful views from every side of the city. It makes a big circle from the Plaza Zocodover, and the trip lasts just under 1 hour. Their website is: Toledo Train Vision. I think adult fees were 6 Euro, and we only paid 3 Euro for our 5-year old (younger kids were free), so for 15 Euro the whole family got a break from walking, had some amazing views and photo opportunities, and we were even able to listen to historical information in English through their headsets. The headsets were probably the children's favorite part. They were so proud to each have their own. We all shared a long bench, so I sat on the right side to get the best pictures.
It was funny for two reasons. First, I had been at this exact overlook during a high school trip to Spain in 2000. It was so cool to be sharing that moment with my family now, when I had once smiled and linked arms with high school girlfriends. Secondly, our apartment where we spent the weekend was right near the Cathedral, and had a gorgeous tower room, with 360 degree views of the city. From our tower, we could see the train stop every hour, and see people's camera flashes from the vista. So we took our own pictures and got a kick out of finding our apartment from the overlook.
The Cathedral has a number of other additional interesting sights. In the Treasury you can see an enormous monstrance, over 10 feet tall, made from 18 kilos of gold and 183 kilos of silver! It is used in the city's Corpus Christi procession, in early June, which is their largest annual festival. Apparently the streets are decorated weeks in advance, and the monstrance is processed carrying the Body of Christ. The Treasury is located in one corner of the Cathedral, and admission is included with your general tour ticket. Tickets are 6 Euro per adult (kids free), and can be purchased in the shop directly across from the tour entrance, on the Southern side of the church.
Wednesday, August 14, 2013
Pros and Cons of living on base
As new families are moving to Rota, I frequently hear the question, "which is better: living in town, or living on base?" Well, each have their advantages, and downsides, and you will have to weigh how many sacrifices you are willing to make.
I would have been up to the challenge of learning Spanish and putting in the work of becoming part of their culture, but I wasn't sure the rest of our young family was ready for the challenge. We enjoy Spanish food and culture, but we are more interested in being occasional tourists than in being continual residents in a foreign land. When we found out that we would qualify for the newly-renovated 4-bedroom houses on base, that made the decision easy for us. Our house on base is huge, with more than enough room and storage space for our family. We have a large driveway with plenty of parking, and a large fenced-in yard with automatic sprinklers. (Caveat: not all base housing is like ours. We are E-6 with 4 children. Many houses on base are smaller and older, which definitely make living in town more appealing.)
5. Full sized kitchen. This is a picture of our kitchen in base housing. It includes a regular oven and stove, a dishwasher, a fridge/freezer, and even an additional stand-alone freezer. This is great for our family of 6 people. But Americans are spoiled. Most Spanish families make do with much less in the kitchen. Dishwashers are not standard, ovens and refrigerators are much smaller, and in general less energy is used. Again, this is a matter of your own needs and expectations. If you are willing to act more like the Spanish: shop for groceries daily, cook smaller portions, and hand-wash dishes, then you won't mind living in town. If you want American conveniences, then you might be happier on base. One big warning: ask how to use your stove before you move in! I see questions all the time from people who can't figure out the pictures on their oven!
6. Short commute. The base is small, only a few miles across. So even though housing is on one side and my husband's work is on the other, it is only 3 miles away. So he often bikes or runs into work, and I can walk or bike with the kids to many base activities. We like the active lifestyle, and the fact that my husband can easily come home for breakfast, lunch, or to pick up a needed item. The towns that border base are Rota and El Puerto de Santa Maria. You can easily find great housing about 15 minutes away from base in either of those towns. But after living off-base at our last station, we knew we would see my husband a lot less during the day if our house was any farther away from his work. Also, if you have kids involved in multiple activities on base, like school, sports, dance, etc, you will find yourself spending a lot of time on base anyway, and "killing time" between activities since there is no reason to drive home. I like being able to accomplish a lot of errands without spending much time driving.
If you want to live in town, that is definitely the best way to become part of the culture, and the kids would learn a lot of Spanish. The military provides a housing allowance for anyone who lives off base, and the overseas calculation for our family would have easily covered monthly rent in most houses in this area. If you wish, there are houses with beach views, houses with built-in swimming pools, and houses with beautiful gardens maintained by the landlord, all a short commute from base. Spanish are extremely welcoming, and many Americans have great relationships with their landlords, being practically adopted by them and invited to family celebrations.
Becoming part of Spanish culture also has a lot of challenges. Not only do you have to learn the language, but it will also mean changing a lot of family routines. The Spanish are on a completely different daily schedule and eat their meals at much later times than Americans. They stay up much later, often until 1am, even with children! My husband works almost exclusively with Americans, on a more traditional American 9-5 schedule, so living in town would be a big adjustment for us.
For the most part, we love it. There are times, especially in the beautiful summer, when some of my friends' houses seem to have a lot of perks. But to keep myself from jealousy, here are the top reasons I like living on base:
1. Free utilities. On military bases, electricity and water are provided at no cost. And without limitations. So we can use as much as we want without consequence. This is good, since children frequently leave the door open when the AC is running, or let the water run. Off base, utility bills are quite high, and can vary greatly from month to month, making it frustrating to budget. Some months, bills can be several hundred Euros in off-base housing. All we pay is $60 per month for our phone/Internet.
2. Heat and Air conditioning. You may not realize how important central heat and air are to you until you don't have them. In Southern Spain, the climate is fairly mild, so heating and AC are not standard in most houses. Sure, you can find it in some of the more modern expensive rentals, but for the most part off-base housing is quite cold in winter, and unpleasantly hot in summer. You can use space heaters and fireplaces, or fans, but when it gets up to 100 degrees, or down to 40 degrees F in winter, we are happy to hide inside.
3. Quiet. Our area of base is very deserted and quiet. We don't share a wall or a backyard with anyone. So there is usually very little noise, and we have no trouble letting the kids take naps at their usual time. In town, especially in summer, you should be prepared for a lot of noise all night from beach tourists, and from the local residents who regularly stay out late-- until 5 AM! Spanish kids nap from 3-5 pm, so if you have Spanish neighbors you should be respectfully quiet during those hours.
4. No line-drying. All base housing includes a full-sized washer and dryer. Americans take this for granted, but the washing system is very different in Spain. Most residents line-dry their clothing, either because their house doesn't have a dryer, or because the electrical costs are just so high. This is fine in summer, when it is sunny for 4-5 months straight, but very difficult to time during the winter rainy season. Some houses in Spain use cold water wash cycles only to conserve heating costs, or they use much smaller machines to conserve water. Of course you can discuss this with your landlord, but it is something to be aware of. And yes, there is always the option to use a Laundromat, which most people off-base have to do sometimes, but with a family of 6 that is not realistic for me!
6. Short commute. The base is small, only a few miles across. So even though housing is on one side and my husband's work is on the other, it is only 3 miles away. So he often bikes or runs into work, and I can walk or bike with the kids to many base activities. We like the active lifestyle, and the fact that my husband can easily come home for breakfast, lunch, or to pick up a needed item. The towns that border base are Rota and El Puerto de Santa Maria. You can easily find great housing about 15 minutes away from base in either of those towns. But after living off-base at our last station, we knew we would see my husband a lot less during the day if our house was any farther away from his work. Also, if you have kids involved in multiple activities on base, like school, sports, dance, etc, you will find yourself spending a lot of time on base anyway, and "killing time" between activities since there is no reason to drive home. I like being able to accomplish a lot of errands without spending much time driving.
7. Maintenance Free. All military housing is maintained by the base, so you don't have to pay for or worry about repairs. Usually, a call to the housing office can get things fixed within a few days. You are allowed to paint, but you must re-paint in white before checking out. Off base, maintenance is handled by a landlord. Sometimes this works out fine, but often Americans get fed up with the "manana" attitude the Spanish have about taking care of things 'tomorrow,' which rarely actually means tomorrow. Numerous holidays and a relaxed work attitude mean that Americans need to be very patient and flexible about maintenance. In addition, sometimes American's impressions of maintenance 'problems' differ from what the Spanish landlords perceive of as their responsibility, so it can be a touchy subject.
8. Compatible electric plugs. In the States, we have 110 volt electrical plugs. In most of Europe, the plugs have a different shape, and the outlets have 220 volts. Conveniently, the base housing for Americans has all American sized plugs, with 110 volt outlets. So anything you bring with you can be plugged in and work right away in your base housing. In town, you have to use not only an adjuster to plug American appliances into a Spanish wall, but you also have to use a transformer to step down the voltage so you won't fry your appliances. You will be provided with 2 transformers from housing, and you can buy more, but that means you have to be very conscious of only plugging 1 thing in at a time, and unplugging it once it is charged. A minor nuisance, but one that is avoided in base housing.
9. Convenience. The base has almost everything you need: American food at the commissary, clothes and home decor at the NEX, schools, gym, gas station, playgrounds, sports teams, music and dance lessons, and occasional entertainment. Of course, most of this is available in towns as well, just in Spanish. So each family has to decide if joining Spanish schools, sports teams, and local clubs is right for them. We like the convenience of having everything within a few miles or even walking distance. And we like the quality of American education and activities. We can go off base for Spanish food and culture whenever we WANT to, but we don't HAVE to for everyday errands. But if you are willing to be more involved in Spanish life, then living in town and being able to walk to the beach and numerous restaurants might appeal more to you.
10. Not affected by changing Overseas Housing Allowance. The OHA is calculated by rank, similar to BAH if you live off-base in the States. If you live on base, you don't receive this. However, whether you live on or off base, you will receive COLA (cost of living allowance) which is several hundred extra dollars per month to accommodate for the higher cost of living here than at an average American base.) If you live in town, you receive OHA to pay your rent and utility bills. The allotments are pretty generous, and are usually plenty to cover your rent and utilities, as long as you are savvy and don't waste electricity. (You do not receive any money back if you come in under your OHA, it is just a maximum figure.) However, with the uncertain budgets in the military, sequestration furlough cuts, and the possible changes in OHA next year, I would not want to be locked into a 1-year rental agreement in town. Just because your military benefits change does not mean your Spanish landlord will adjust your rent. So if you decide to live in town, make sure you can afford your rent, and have a comfortable cushion for unexpected salary changes.
So I hope this has helped anyone moving to Rota weighing their options about whether to live on base or in town. At least I hope you now know what to look for, and what questions to ask a potential landlord. And if you're already here and looking around in jealousy as more friends move off base, remember the next time you don't pay an electric bill or do laundry on a rainy day that there are a lot of blessings to living on base.
So I hope this has helped anyone moving to Rota weighing their options about whether to live on base or in town. At least I hope you now know what to look for, and what questions to ask a potential landlord. And if you're already here and looking around in jealousy as more friends move off base, remember the next time you don't pay an electric bill or do laundry on a rainy day that there are a lot of blessings to living on base.
Friday, August 9, 2013
Up close and personal with Cathusian horses
The arena seating is on bleachers, and they will be covered in dust from the performance, so dress accordingly. There is no need to pay for the "special seating" because there are only about 4 rows of seating in all arena areas, and they all have great views of each event.
El Portal is a small town located only about 25 minutes from base. You begin by heading toward Jerez, but at the traffic circle with the Bodega barrels, you take the first exit towards El Portal. In 5 km, you will begin to enter the town of El Portal. Just before the first traffic light, turn right at the sign for the Yeguada. Follow for another 5 km, and just as you go under an overpass bridge, the entrance to the ranch will be on your left, clearly marked as the Yeguada de la Cartuja. Then just follow the road back to the dirt parking lot.The farm is stroller-friendly. Even though it is built on a steep hill, there are ramps beside all the stairs.
Tuesday, August 6, 2013
Horse Races in Sanlucar
If you go anytime before 5pm, the Spanish will still be at siesta, so there will be plenty of room. On the other hand, if you are going with children and don't want to wait around for hours, you will still be able to squeeze in anywhere after 7pm. There are stands set up near the finish line, and for 10 Euro per person you can have an unobstructed view, plus enjoy some food and entertainment from the cassettas. But anywhere else on the beach is free. Bring some beach toys and snacks, or buy drinks and snacks from the vendors pushing wheelbarrows along the beach.
Parking is available at Sanlucar's main underground parking lot. Follow the feria grounds 2 blocks to the riverfront, and you will be near the starting line. Or, when the reach the river, turn left and walk up to one mile, and you will reach the finish line.
Once at the beach, you will see numerous home-made cardboard stands. These are betting booths, run by the Spanish children. The bets are small, usually just pocket change, but the kids take it very seriously. They issue tickets, and pay out dividends after each race. It's not everyday you see bookies looking so cute!
This was our view of the starting gate. A tractor moved the gate in between each race, probably because of the changing low tide line. See all the boats in the water? They had a great vantage point. There was no starting bell or gunshot that we could hear. Just a huge cheer from the crowd, and then they were off!

(This isn't my photo. I stole it from a friend. I was standing further back watching my baby, whom I didn't trust near the fence.)
After each race, the netting comes down, and everyone can play in the sand and the water. You can see Sophie standing in the tracks where the horses ran by moments earlier. This is a fun time for the whole family. You will see fathers standing in the water, playing with their kids, with an alcoholic drink in one hand. The Spanish children are allowed to climb all over the starting gate. The atmosphere is relaxed, fun, and exciting. We were struck by how very Spanish this event is: children out late (past sunset) families talking and drinking together, and everyone just sharing the beach and enjoying an event together. This type of activity wouldn't work in the States. There would be tickets, preferred seating, greed, commercialization, etc.
If you are just there for the horse races, you may be a little bored, because they are 45 minutes apart, and only about 3 races each night. But if you are there to enjoy a family evening on the beach, with the added thrill of horses running by, you will have a blast!
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